Getting Bad News

Friday, we got discouraging adoption news. Ethiopia is enacting the PAIR (pre-adoption immigration review). When we initially heard word of this a couple weeks ago, we were optimistic that it might mean only one travel trip instead of two (which would decrease costs and mean that we didn’t have to say goodbye to our child and return to the states with empty arms for 6-8 weeks while we waited for our child’s visa). But the news Friday wasn’t what we were hoping for. Rather, it was almost the opposite. Still two trips, and now costs might increase due to children having to spend longer at the transition home (Transition home is run by our adoption agency) and the wait time between referral and the court travel date increasing from 4-6 months to 8-10 months. (Note: The wait time between being DTE/dossier to Ethiopia and getting a referral is still 24-30 months at this time. Now, add 8-10 months for us to travel for our court date and another 4-6 weeks to go back a second time to bring our child home. The long and short of it is… more waiting. A lot more waiting.

I don’t know how much you know about me, but I’m not good at waiting. And apparently, this is a lesson God is insistent on teaching me because I keep running into it, especially when it comes to children. Two miscarriages before Lydia meant lots of waiting to hold a baby. A year of trying to get pregnant before Charlotte meant lots of waiting to get a positive pregnancy test. And when we first started our adoption journey our wait time was 12-18 months to get a referral… now it’s 24-30 months and could get longer. And then last Friday we found out that the waiting time between our being matched with a child (referral) and traveling to Ethiopia has been extended too. More waiting. More waiting. More waiting.

I’ve had a few days to process this news, and while I’m still discouraged I have to look back and remember what God has taught me through my wait for Lydia, Charlotte and now our Ethiopian child. I have to remember…

There is purpose in the wait. 

Our adoption hasn’t left God’s mind, even though sometimes I like to send him reminders. ;) His timing is perfect even when I don’t understand it. Right now, I don’t know why He would allow these kids to stay longer in a transition home when there are families aching to have them home. But I don’t have to understand Him to follow Him, to surrender to Him and to trust Him. That’s what makes Him God. I simply have to remember His faithfulness and cling to His Word. And I’m clinging with white knuckles and clenched fists to His Word. I’m claiming Isaiah 61 over Ethiopian adoptions and I’m praying for favor with Ethiopian authorities.It’s easy to get discouraged, to question whether you’re doing the right thing, to listen to the enemy. I’ve wrestled with all those this weekend, but I have to remember there is a purpose in the wait. If you’ve said yes to something seemingly impossible God has asked of you, don’t lose heart. Stay strong and know there is purpose in the wait. Even if we can’t see it right now.

1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, 2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, 3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion– to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor. 4 They will rebuild the ancient ruins and restore the places long devastated; they will renew the ruined cities that have been devastated for generations. 5 Aliens will shepherd your flocks; foreigners will work your fields and vineyards. 6 And you will be called priests of the LORD, you will be named ministers of our God. You will feed on the wealth of nations, and in their riches you will boast. 7 Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs.8 “For I, the LORD, love justice; I hate robbery and iniquity. In my faithfulness I will reward them and make an everlasting covenant with them. 9 Their descendants will be known among the nations and their offspring among the peoples. All who see them will acknowledge that they are a people the LORD has blessed.” 10 I delight greatly in the LORD; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. 11 For as the soil makes the sprout come up and a garden causes seeds to grow, so the Sovereign LORD will make righteousness and praise spring up before all nations.